anyone know of any good place for comments.... to use on your own site?

see here:

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&lr=&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&q=comment+system

or search the forum for "comment system"

Love,
Mirna

if you are manually blogging, i would highly suggest www.haloscan.com. they're very cutsomizable and only have a little tiny link to there site :D