I know this sounds like a bit of a stupid questions but i like this girl we get on really well, but i dont know how to ask her out. I was about to but ask her but i tripped over, so she just laughed, it was funny though. Have any of you got any ideas? My friend has got her mobile number so i was going to ask him if he could give her my number. what do you think?

Whatever you do, don't ask her out over your mobile phone - that's the worst thing to do.

Try starting off by asking her to the cinema or round to your house. Just tell her the truth - say that you like her and that you'd like to give you two a chance.

Dont get a third person involved, the best thing to do is just ask her yourself. And it should be in person. Make sure she knows you are interested first so you dont completely take her off guard. I also dont recommend going to the movies because you can't talk. Bowling is a great date - it's fun, you can talk, and if theres nothing to talk about, you can bowl. I know this because I was on a bowling date this weekend, and we had a great time. I kicked his butt :). So next time you're hanging out with her, ask her if she's ever been bowling, or if she likes bowling, and if she'd like to go with you this weekend.

I wont see her for 2 weeks because i see her when i go trampoling and she goes to grammer and i dont. I think she has got MSN in which case i will ask my friend if he could get it for me.

Edit: Also would it be pervy if i went out with her as she is in yr 8 and i am in yr 10. There are some of my friends that are going out with yr 8s just like you thoughts

How old is she, and how old are you? I mean, if you're 16 and she's 12, then I would say she's way too young. If you're 15 and she's 13, that's not so bad. Keep in mind that some girls parents wont let them date that young though.

Im 15 and i think she is 12/13

I think you might just be a little old for her=)Sorry.:(But you just might not have the same interests which is nothing to talk about so..

I know she "likes" me because i accdently totched her Watch your language, please. (I swear it was by accendent) and she smiled at me.

Your still too old..I doubt her parents would like it.
And the thing you said is slightly innapropriate..ew..

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What does g-rated mean?

What does g-rated mean?


For all ages.

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In the rules....
3. Keep Language Kid-Friendly: This one is obvious.

Ok i am sorry for my Language i did not mean to offend anyone.

when i get her MSN i will see if she wants to go bowling. I will also get my friend to give her my mobile.

The age difference isn't bad (3 years), it's just at this point in time, she seems a little young. Of course, in a few years it wouldn't be such an issue. But then again, it depends on how her parents feel about dating.

Doing it in person is the best. Emails, IMs, text message, etc seem a bit informal. Even a hand written letter is better, but I suggest it being face to face.

I think she has got MSN in which case i will ask my friend if he could get it for me.

why don't you get it yourself :S ? I really wouldn't want to date a person that doesn't dare to ask anything himself.

anywayz, i think you're too old. 15 and 13 isn't a much difference in age, but it is in "life". It's the point you two are at the moment ... you are getting more adult .. she isn't ..

when i get her MSN i will see if she wants to go bowling. I will also get my friend to give her my mobile.
again i'm asking: WHY ?

if you want her, get her yourself. Don't let others do the dirty work for you :)

Okay, do you want a little advice from a female who had an experience extremely similar to yours?

Well, I'll give it to you anyway. There are three things you DO NOT want to do when asking this girl out.
1. Ask over a mobile device such as a messenger or a cell phone. A lot of girls want the more personal approach. It shows you have more guts. (Mobile means are kind of cowardly.)
2. Get another person involved. All the "he says" "she says" stuff gets tedious, and really, it comes back to the having guts thing. If you feel stronly enough about her, you should be able to do it yourself.
3. Acting pushy or "cool". The whole "cool" thing is overrated. Sure, girls like guys that have that label because it makes them look good, but don't act the part in front of her. Be yourself. Sometimes, that's the most endearing thing about a guy.

But don't put things off. Don't delay asking her out or something or someone else may get in the way. (Trust me, that happens a lot, whether you think it possible or not). And don't give up completely because of the age thing; 3 years isnt so bad. Believe it or not, there are Seniors in my high school going out with middle schoolers. (No comment, to each his own.)

3 years isn't bad when you are 17 and 20
but 12 and 15 is a whole other story to me .. :)
she's still a kid, he is growing up to becoming an adult. has other interests etc ..

but yeah, to each it's own opinion i know haha
do what you like best, as long as you are both happy with it

Love,
Mirna

I have decide on what i am going to do.

Step 1: Get her MSN
Step 2: See if she wants to go bowling
Step 3: Ask her out

Or i could see she wants to go bowling with her friends.

Which one would be best

I have decide on what i am going to do.

Step 1: Get her MSN
Step 2: See if she wants to go bowling
Step 3: Ask her out

Or i could see she wants to go bowling with her friends.

Which one would be best

As long as you make the bowling thing seem more like a friendly endeavor instead of a date. Ask her out while bowling. Goes back to my whole "personal" philosophy.

Ok i have made my mind up, i will see if she wants to go bowling with her friends and if it goes well ask her out.

invite some of your friends MAYBE but only if they know, you dont want to have to have a front on all the time infront of them, also if you ask her out there, then you will need to et her away from her mates (good distraction ;)) lol. Its not a good idea to ask a girl out infront of her mates, seriously.

invite some of your friends MAYBE but only if they know, you dont want to have to have a front on all the time infront of them, also if you ask her out there, then you will need to et her away from her mates (good distraction ;)) lol. Its not a good idea to ask a girl out infront of her mates, seriously.

I have made that mistake before

3 years isn't bad when you are 17 and 20
but 12 and 15 is a whole other story to me .. :)
she's still a kid, he is growing up to becoming an adult. has other interests etc ..

but yeah, to each it's own opinion i know haha
do what you like best, as long as you are both happy with it

Love,
Mirna

She might be 13, but if you think about it quite a lot of parents have a couple of years between them.

3 years isn't bad when you are 17 and 20
but 12 and 15 is a whole other story to me .. :)
she's still a kid, he is growing up to becoming an adult. has other interests etc ..

but yeah, to each it's own opinion i know haha
do what you like best, as long as you are both happy with it

Love,
Mirna

She might be 13, but if you think about it quite a lot of parents have a couple of years between them.

She might be 13, but if you think about it quite a lot of parents have a couple of years between them.

That's true. My parents have 19 years between them. But, she is only 13. Her parents may not like the idea of having their little girl date at such a young age to someone your age. Be careful when asking her out. You might want to get on good terms with her parents while your at it.

She might be 13, but if you think about it quite a lot of parents have a couple of years between them.

That's because they met when they are older.. my boyfriend is 4 1/2 years older than me, which isn't too much of a big deal :lol: But if I was 13, and I was dating an 18 year old, that might turn a few heads :P It's all about growing up and maturity, you mature A LOT during your teens. I don't think 13/15 is a big deal, but 12/15 definitely is :P

She might be 13, but if you think about it quite a lot of parents have a couple of years between them.

I think if she is 13 and you have just turned 15 then thats alright....but if shes a young 12 and you 15 thats a HUGE difference in terms of maturity and stuff, she's a child and you a young adult....Mirna and a couple of other people have already said the same thing...a few years isn't a huge deal when you are older, but at the age you are a few years can make a HUGE difference.

My dads a year oder than my mum and they met when my mum was about 13, he was 14 going on 15..

It all depends on your area, i mean where i live if someone asked me out at 12/13 by a 15 year old (im 15 myself, im speaking hypothetically) my dad wouldnt be too happy, but in an area where my cousins are its like the guys are totally more mature and talk to girls dads and get permission and stuff.. it all depends i guess

would it be a good idea if i got to know her better went places with friends, and then ask her out.

i'm trying to picture how you would act on a date with her...
would you go into a intenet cafe and post at LEIA and ask "what do i do next ?!!?" ?

i hope not .. therefor you really have to get everything together and just ask her out. Not in front of others .. that's where you get the gossip from and the talk etc ... ask her if she has some time after school (or maybe in this case just have some free time, since i guess you guys already have a holiday?) ... then ask if she would like to go out with you sometime.

like others already said. It's not the age difference that bothers me, it's the gap between "child" and "teen" and the whole maturity thing.
sure my parents have some years inbetween aswell, but they didnt met each other at the age of 15 ...

Before asking her out, get to know her first. Seriously, if you don't even know how old she is, I doubt you two know much about each other.

Don't rush into things, that's one way to make it not work.

I do know how old she is, she is 13

Are you guys good friends? me and my boyfriend were great friends for about 6 months before he asked me out - at the time i was abit clueless he had feelings for me, i thought he just regared my as a friend, and so i put ym feelings aside - so if you guys become good friends that would be a very good basis for a relationship first. 1 thing, we were friends for about 6-8months and for the last 2 weeks of that all i got was "OMG do you fancy Ian??? I heard he fancies you" its a real REAL put off.

I have know her for about 3-4 months and we get on fine. We are very good friends.

She might be 13You don't seem too sure

i'm trying to picture how you would act on a date with her...
would you go into a intenet cafe and post at LEIA and ask "what do i do next ?!!?" ?:lolol:

I think you should ask her out. Just do it.

This is a bit unrelated, but what do you guys think is more important: Being with someone who can provide for you and give you a good life, or being with someone who makes your heart jump?

Well i think personally if you like her enough, you guys get on well have a strong friendship, its also acepted where you are that other guys go out with girls her age, and you are compltly sure? go for it. Good luck whatever you choose!

i'm trying to picture how you would act on a date with her...
would you go into a intenet cafe and post at LEIA and ask "what do i do next ?!!?" ?

Snort.:lolol:

Kier,you aren`t even sure of her age..maby you should get to know her better maby even ask her her name=D

Snort.:lolol:

Kier,you aren`t even sure of her age..maby you should get to know her better maby even ask her her name=D

I do know how old she is, she is 13


Her name is Chole

Well i think personally if you like her enough, you guys get on well have a strong friendship, its also acepted where you are that other guys go out with girls her age, and you are compltly sure? go for it. Good luck whatever you choose!

I think you should ask her out. Just do it.




Thanks for the support

Well, it's been a while, how did it go? Have you asked her out yet?

wow all I have to say is wait til she's in highschool :P

wow all I have to say is wait til she's in highschool :P

What is highschool.

and no i haven't asked her yet.

What is highschool.


In the US, grades 9-12 are referred to as "highschool". What is is called in the UK?

Secondary school....though i'm amazed anyone on the planet hasn't watched enough TV/films to have heard it called 'highschool' before :lol:

Secondary school....though i'm amazed anyone on the planet hasn't watched enough TV/films to have heard it called 'highschool' before :lol:
Maybe he wasn't sure exactly :)

It depends what part of the UK he comes from, my secondary school is called "community high school" for age 11-16... If hes in like scotland its completly different, dont be so hard on the guy come on people show abit of compassion

Edit : she is in highschool already

Im in upper school in year 10 and she is in upper school but in year 8.

Where i live schools go up to year 11, so i have only got 1 year left.

Secondary school....though i'm amazed anyone on the planet hasn't watched enough TV/films to have heard it called 'highschool' before :lol:
LOL.watch Buffy!Are you nearly 16?You may be just too old for her.:-)

Im in year 10 too, no hes 15 like me if hes in year 10. And she will be 12-13 in year 8... in my school its more frowned apon if its a year 7...

Secondary school....though i'm amazed anyone on the planet hasn't watched enough TV/films to have heard it called 'highschool' before :lol:

me too ... my friends and have always been talking about "highschool movies" (feel good movies etc.. bla bla) haha since i was like 10 years old or something ...

LOL.watch Buffy!Are you nearly 16?You may be just too old for her.:-)


I'm 16 at the end of september.

Yep.A little bit too old:)