If you would look at my graphic here:
http://www.freewebs.com/soulrocka/beyonceshow.gif (if you can't click on the link try pasting it in a new browser).

You will see that for some reason, my graphic doesn't blend in with the brushes. It just looks like a big square. I really want my graphics and brushes to blend like here: http://www.digital-miss.org/mona/indexx.html You will see that everything in her graphic flows and you can't even tell where the picture stops or end...I've tried all sorts of things. I have lassoed the image, try to make the back the same as beyonce's hair, etc. But for some reason it just won't flow. Does anyone have any idea what I could do to make this picture flow and work with the brushes? Thx. If you need me to explain further please tell me.

well just fade the edges, on psp i would just use a kinda or faded eraser on just that pic on a different layer then merge them

with your selection, make sure you use the feather effect.

Neither is working the way that I want it to work.

In the example graphic, it doesn't look as if you have used feathering or erasing at all. Could you describe EXACTLY what steps you took? Did it look exactly like this while you were looking at it in Photoshop? Because I can't think of any reason for feathering/erasing to just not work like that, unless you have something wrong with your program or something weird like that.